Funerals, Dirges and Tombstones

On my way home from the doctor office today, my mother was being unusually quiet. I knew something was on her mind but I was enjoying the peace and quiet (I can't drive myself when on narcotic pain relievers). Suddenly she breaks her silence with this simple sentence "Shouldn't we be making plans?" Not for sure what she was talking about I said, "I can't answer such a generic question." I looked over at her and could see the wheels spinning. After what seemed like a very very long pause she said, "Your funeral."

I said well what's to plan, I want to be buried in our family plot and have a Catholic Mass that's just about the jist of it. She started in on a list of things saying "I need to know...", Music Tombstone eulogy ect. I told her other than the Mass the funeral is for the living, not the dead and since we are all Catholics a traditional Catholic funeral. The where's, whens and what's should be most convienent to you and the family.

The reason I am telling this is because it completely took by surprise and how many people ever expect to be going down the road and asked that question? It was a bit shocking and at the same time comforting. Mom had seemed to be in denial and now I see she is preparing herself. She said My brother was coming to see me next week as it is his birthday. I was telling her I will glad to see him and his family. She said, he is not bringing his family. I asked her why and she said she didn't know.

So I guess I'll wait and see what is on his mind. Today was definitely one of my weirder days.